High School was not my favourite chapter of life. I had a great time in High School but it shies in comparison to my life right now. For me, High School was a time of growth and learning. I didn’t get straight A’s and I didn’t always fit in but I had a great group of friends and I did my best. Although, sometimes it was hard, I learned so much from those years. In retrospect there are a few things I wish I would have known.
Dear High School Students,
First and foremost be yourself. Don’t conform to the standards that the ‘popular’ students set for you. It is easy to get caught up in how much you are liked or how many followers you have. When I was starting High School Facebook came out. I had just moved to a new town and I didn’t have very many friends. The few friends I did have had tons of friends on Facebook. In a desperate attempt to fit in I started adding billions of people. I’ve tried to go through and filter out the people I don’t know but I still have random people pop up on my Facebook that I have never even talked too. Did that help the situation? Not really. I don’t think people really noticed how many Facebook friends I had. I’m pretty sure it was all in my mind. Also, I’m not even friends with the people I was trying, so badly, to impress anymore. Be authentic. Don’t change to just fit in. Don’t compromise your values. Accept you for who you are.
It get’s better and worse. I’ve heard many people say High School was the worst and they always follow with “it get’s better.” They are right some things do get better. There are less labels in the adult world. Adults generally don’t go around calling each other popular or nerds. For the most part you are free to make whatever choices your little heart desires. If you want to eat a cookie at 3:00 a.m. on a work day you totally can. Yes, there are very many perks to graduating High School and becoming an adult but
“With great power comes great responsibility” – Uncle Ben, Spiderman.
There is no easy way to say this Audulting is hard. You have the power to do so much but you are also responsible for a ton of new things. Life isn’t always fair. Sometimes you have to sacrifice certain things in order to do other things. Paying bills isn’t very fun. You can’t be as carefree and blissfully ignorant as you were in High School. Irregardless of what stage you are at in life you are going to have hard times. In conclusion yes it does get better. Mostly better but sometimes worse.
Make the most of High School. If you want to be in a club, join. If your High School offers college classes, take them. If you want to try out for a sport, try. If you want to audition for a part, audition. Don’t let your insecurities hold you back and don’t let other people tell you that you can’t. If something is important to you make it happen. Don’t join something just because your friends are doing it. Do things that you love.
Be careful what you post on social media and avoid the drama. Plenty of people argued on social media when I was in High School. I remember reading them but I don’t remember who won those arguments. Numerous people posted them participating in illegal activities. Don’t be dumb. Once it is on the internet it is there forever.
Lastly, be kind to everyone even if they are not kind to you. Most of the time the people who pick on you are dealing with issues of their own and that is why they are lashing out. What you say and do to others says a lot about you and the person you are. Let your kindness influence other people.