In the October 2016 General Women’s Session of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Jean B. Bingham gave the talk “I Will Bring the Gospel Light Into My Home” in her talk she tells a story:
“…our teacher told us the story of a girl who lived on a hill on one side of a valley. Each late afternoon she noticed on the hill on the opposite side of the valley a house that had shining, golden windows. Her own home was small and somewhat shabby, and the girl dreamed of living in that beautiful house with windows of gold.
One day the girl was given permission to ride her bike across the valley. She eagerly rode until she reached the house with the golden windows that she had admired for so long. But when she dismounted from her bike, she saw that the house was abandoned and dilapidated, with tall weeds in the yard and windows that were plain and dirty. Sadly, the girl turned her face toward home. To her surprise, she saw a house with shining, golden windows on the hill across the valley and soon realized it was her very own home!8“
Please tell me I’m not the only one..but I often find myself wanting things when I really don’t need them and not only do I compare myself to others.. I compare everyone to everyone. Instead of windows I compare who has the fanciest car, nicest house, best Instagram story, etc. The first step is admitting you have a problem.. right? So that is what I did. After reading this talk I realized that I was that little girl and I needed to change and get perspective. This past month I have been trying not to compare myself as much. On top of that I have been constantly reminding myself how lucky I am and how much I actually love my life. Comparing yourself and others is toxic. It can lead to depression, low self esteem, and insincere relationships. I also worked on Charity. Charity is that pure love which our Savior Jesus Christ has. I have done that by genuinely trying to understand my family and friends and their circumstances. Before judging them and comparing our shortcomings I found all wonderful things that make them who they are. I have tried to boost them up and make them feel loved.
Moroni Chapter 7:45 states “And charity suffereth long, and is kind, and envieth not, and is not puffed up, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, and rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.”
Every time I tempted to compare myself or others I remember a phrase I learned in primary “What would Jesus do.” Which makes me think “What does Jesus think.” On our final judgement day do you really think that we will not be accepted by our Savior because our Social Media feed, house, or car, etc. was not as good as someone elses? The struggle is real it is not easy to not compare but little by little I will work on it each day.