Going to college can be intimidating! Not only does it cost you money but it also cost you a bunch of time. When I started my first semester of college in the fall of 2014 my husband I just moved in with my parents, I started a photography business, and I was working part time. I decided to take it easy my first semester by taking 12 credit hours (4 classes). At this point and time I was dead set on getting my degree in Business Communications. Then I took Econ 1500 at HATED it. During my Christmas break I did some pondering on what I should go into. I was lost. So I decided to get some of my generals out of the way and do some electives to try and determine what field would be best for me. I decided to try and push myself to new limits that semester by taking sixteen credit hours ( 7 classes). I kept myself super busy trying to avoid the fact that I still had not chosen a major.
By April of 2015 I knew I needed to get a plan and fast. I was at work very early one morning and I had a little free time. I decided to meander through the few degrees that USU- Uintah Basin offers. I had been thinking about psychology ( I even bought a book) and also teaching but I had a feeling that if I pursued those I would not be happy with them. I said a little prayer in my heart asking God what I needed to do. Then I had a very clear and distinct voice in my head say “What do you want?”
In my favorite scene from “The Notebook” the Movie there is a scene near the end when Noah and Allie are arguing. The argument goes a little something like this.
Young Noah: But don’t you take the easy way out.
Young Allie: What easy way? There is no easy way, no matter what I do, somebody gets hurt.
Young Noah: Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants? Stop thinking about what I want, what he wants, what your parents want. What do YOU want? What do you WANT?
I seriously laughed at myself (out loud) because here I am trying to make a life changing decision and I have “The Notebook” playing through my head. Seriously? But I knew that I was hearing these words in my head for a reason. When I went to college I didn’t go for myself. I went because everyone said that’s what I should do. I also wasn’t getting a degree in something I liked. I was getting a degree in something that was ‘safe’. When I asked myself that daunting question “What do I want?” I already knew the answer.
I knew that one day I wanted kids but I also wanted to do something I liked after they grew up and left. I also knew that I did not want to go to school for a long time. I knew I wanted kids in less than the four years it would take to get just my Bachelors in psychology or teaching. So I did something I had never done. I looked at the associates degrees. They had computer technology, general technology, criminal justice, and a general associate degree. I went through all of them and the only one that remotely stood out to me was criminal justice. (I mean, come on, who hasn’t dreamed of being as cool as Olivia on Law & Order) At that moment I also got another distinct feeling. I remembered I had a friend from high school whose dad had a law firm. So what do I do? Message her on Facebook. I asked if her dad had or knew of any opportunities such as internships or jobs in the legal system. Guess what? It just so happened that he had just posted an opening for a secretary! I got the job. I was beyond ecstatic! What are the odds? Some may call that coincidence, fate, or luck but I knew that my prayers had been answered and I was doing what I was suppose to do.
So here I am. I work at a law firm in Vernal Utah and I am getting my associates in criminal justice and eventually I will become a certified paralegal. This is the best of both worlds. One day I will have kids and start that chapter but I will always have something I love to do.
What have I learned my freshman year of college you ask?
- You will probably change your major multiple times. That’s okay.
- Make friends with your counselors you will be in their office. a lot.
- Shop around for your books.
- Don’t put off taking your math classes. (Best advice I ever took)
- God will guide you.
- What do you want? Do it.